5 Key Points For Daily Positive Thinking
Our outlook and attitude on life in general plays a huge part in how happy we are in life and how successful we become.
Someone who is optimistic and thinks positively will be more relaxed, calm and smile more than someone who is always looking on the bad side, who lets stress get to them and who constantly wear a frown.
Not only does how you think and feel affect you, it also affects those around you and very often negatively influences outcomes; in short our mood affects our every day.
Developing and keeping a positive outlook is essential if you wish to lead a happy, contented and fulfilling life. It also allows you to have more fun and enjoyable to be with.
There are many ways in which you can develop a more positive outlook and begin to change how you think and feel about the many situations that you encounter in day-to-day living.
Changing your attitude and not slipping back into negative thinking will take time, but eventually your new outlook will become second nature.
"A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you"
- Joyce Meyer
5 key points when changing your outlook are:
1. Practice a POSITIVE ATTITUDE on a daily basis.
Turn your way of thinking into positive thinking and practice seeing a positive side on a daily basis.
There are always positive aspects to a situation, even if you don't see it at first. Practicing this allows for flexible thinking and even if the positive side isn't evident initially, keep an open mind.
If a particular subject is causing you to think and feel negative, then take a break from it and find a different topic altogether than the one that is currently bothering you.
The mere focus upon something good has the potential to alter your mood for the better in a matter of minutes.
Ideally, as you go about your day, set your mind on completing one task at a time and think of at least one positive outcome and how good you will feel when you have completed the task.
Avoid giving in to doubt and negative rumination. It's a discipline that may be challenging at first especially when a negative bias has been your default reaction.
2. Stamp out Negative Conversations.
Don’t let your conversations turn negative, when in a conversation it is easy to let others discourage you, particularly if they have a negative outlook on life. (Notice whether you attract other negative thinkers).
It’s tempting to fall back into your old ways, because people like agreeing with each other for approval. Instead be aware this person is speaking negatively and either turn the negative talk into something positive, change the subject or politely remove yourself from the conversation.
When you look for the good in everything and any situation you will find that you attract more positive people into your life and the negative ones will disappear!
Of course we do sometimes have those negative days and especially when initially re-training your thinking it may seem a little more challenging. It’s because you are noticing it more and simply an indication that you are changing and becoming more aware.
So whenever you do meet someone who is speaking negatively, just realise it's because you are most likely having negative thinking too! Maybe you are attracting that negative energy - we tend to unconsciously seek such confirmation.
By taking time out to relax or engage in some better thinking practices your outer circumstances will change - try it and see for yourself.
3. Look for the Positive and Feel Good!
Look for the positive in those around you and point it out, this way you can encourage a positive attitude all around you.
Complimenting others and when done genuinely is a brilliant way to uplift not only the person you are complimenting but yourself too!
After all, doesn’t it feel good to make someone else feel good?
If it’s difficult to find the positive in others – I know it can be hard sometimes and people can test us to the limit – but we don't have to be taken over by their negative attitudes and outlook. Instead think of something that gives you a lovely feeling such as your cat or your dog or just bring a lovely memory to mind.
It’s all about making a choice in reaching for the good feeling, which will then carry on into every area of your life – it’s powerful, you’ll see!
4. Use the Power of Positive Attitude Every Day.
Whatever you are doing in your day-to-day life, if something is bugging you take a moment to look for the good in it. If it's a boring task that you dislike doing and leaves you feeling on a negative spin, look for something about it that turns it into a more positive situation.
Be a little lighter in your attitude about a situation. It probably isn’t all that bad after all and even if you just ask the question, “What can I see in this situation that will allow me to feel good?” Give it a little time and you’ll be amazed what comes up.
There are times when negative thinking is masking fearful thoughts. You know, think the worst then I won't be taken by surprise. Yet how about thinking about the kind of outcome that you'd ideally like?
It isn't just about 'magical thinking' or unrealistic expectation. Research shows there are many more beneficial reasons for developing an optimistic and positive attitude.
5. Avoid Going Back to Negativity.
Never let yourself become distracted or hoodwinked into going back to negativity. It takes time to change the way you feel and think and if you have been down on yourself and the world for a long time then your new outlook will take a while to register and stay around.
You will find over time that many areas of your life can be changed just by changing your outlook from a negative one to a more positive.
You will find that your self-esteem improves, you become more popular, you feel happier and are more confident than before, you are able to tackle the tasks you once hated without them causing you stress and anxiety and your relationships improve.
When You Need Personalised Help Developing A Positive Attitude.
If you think that having some extra help around developing a more positive thinking style and positive attitude would help, this is one area where I have worked with people for many years.
Here follows an outline of how we would work together in one-to-one online sessions covering these areas:
- How you currently respond to every day difficulties and situations. This is a thorough exploration of where you are now and what you would like to achieve.
- Your current coping mechanism's to life's challenges.
- Discuss your beliefs and attitudes: the beliefs we hold influence our behaviour but we are often unaware of this. We can uncover those beliefs that might be holding you back in some way or preventing you from achieving your goals.
- How your temperament influences your thoughts and behaviour. We are born with a certain temperament. This is a fascinating area to realise and will really help you to understand why you are the way you are.
- Ways that you can develop a more positive mindset and how that might look in transforming your outlook.
- Feel better about yourself: self-belief, self-image and self-esteem all greatly influence our attitude, mindset and behaviour.
- Hypnosis and EFT Tapping are great tools for change and will safely train your mind to develop a new positive outlook and help you change the way you think and feel for a more positive future.
It is well worth investing in the time and effort in developing a positive attitude because it serves us well in so many situations and builds resilience for the life's unexpected twists and turns.
A positive attitude and outlook will also have a positive influence on the people you love and those around you.
Get in touch with me today for a no-obligation chat.